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Attributes of Friends by Imaam Ibn Qudaamah al Maqdisee

February 24, 2011

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
We should know that friendship is a very serious affair. Therefore, we should choose our friends carefully. In brief, a friend should possess five qualities:

  1. He should be sane. Sanity is the pillar of everything. A foolish friend is good for nothing, since he harms his friends where he expects to benefit him.
  2. He must have good manners, and this is a must, since a sane person may be easily irritable or rather possessed by his desires.
  3. He must not be a Faasiq (obscene), an obscene person never fears the Almighty; thus he is constantly unreliable.
  4. He should not also be an innovator, befriending an innovator possibly supports his innovation and undermines man’s dignity and honor. ‘Umar ibn Khattab (رضي الله عنه) said, “Befriend the truthful and live under their shield. In Prosperity, they enhance you and, in adversity, they support you. Discredit not your brother unless it is grounded. Keep away from you enemy. Be on guard against your friend but for the trustworthy who fears the Almighty. Keep away from obscene lest his obscenity disgraces you. Entrust him. Consult the righteous people only. “
  5. He should not be eager for the dunya.

Source: Mukhtasar Minhaj Al-Qasidin Page 106
Biography of Imaam Ibn Qudaamah al Maqdisee rahimahullaah

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